Tag: Reflection
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Not Every Argument Deserves One
There is a very specific type of frustration in an argument. You don’t know how to respond, not because you don’t know what went wrong, but because you know exactly what and how many things went wrong. Then, the inner swirl, conflicts, and surreal feeling of being… Am I really there? Where am I? To…
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Empathy Is Never the Cause of Emotional Abuse
Recently, I have been lurking online, and I can’t believe that I need to address this. There’s a common misconception that abusers only target people with empathy, leading some to frame empathy as the reason emotional abuse happens to certain people. First, stop shaming the victims! Second, to survivors: you are beautifully empathetic souls. Don’t…
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Choosing Yourself: No One Deserves Your Sacrifice of Authentic Self
For starters, this is for those who were taught to suppress themselves. People-pleasing is not the same as acceptance. We try to stay in a dysfunctional relationship, usually because those conflicts remind us too much of the chaos, neglect, or punishment we grew up with. So we now have learned to avoid them by abandoning…
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Reading Is One of the Best You can Do for Yourself
Recently, I have been witnessing the upward trend of “digital detoxing”. The urge to touch grass seems urgent. As reading is often purposeful, for its ability to inform or for leisure, its most profound gift is actually the cultivation of a resilient inner architecture. The Importance of an Independent Mind Reading, fiction or nonfiction, is…
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The Problem with “Hurt People Hurt”
No. Not all hurt people hurt others to cope. This generalized, oversimplified quick wisdom may be good for TikTok compassion, but it may potentially not only justify abusers’ behaviors but also invalidate victims. Trauma and issues of abusers don’t excuse them from accountability. And this thought occurred to me, somehow, after popular content online remains…
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