Tag: Reflection
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The Problem with “Hurt People Hurt”
No. Not all hurt people hurt others to cope. This generalized, oversimplified quick wisdom may be good for TikTok compassion, but it may potentially not only justify abusers’ behaviors but also invalidate victims. Trauma and issues of abusers don’t excuse them from accountability. And this thought occurred to me, somehow, after popular content online remains
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Honesty Doesn’t Make Your Judgement a Fact
People love heroism. Playing the sage, savior, advisor, or authority figure has an irresistible pull for those in a certain psychological state. As a result, honesty often comes with a surge of self-fueled enthusiasm. But does that make their opinion worth listening to? Many people assume that if they are being honest, their opinions automatically
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The Paradox of Revenge: Mission Impossible for Abuse Survivors
Hear me out: I get it. As survivors, even just the mental picture of slapping abusers (and their crew) in the face or watching their hideous true colors revealed in a public exposée can give us an instant dopamine rush. But in reality, many brave and beautiful reborn souls face a paradox of revenge that feels
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Compliance vs. Rebellion: What Is Social Norm’s Role in Self-Discovery?
There is a specific kind of exhaustion that comes from chasing approval. We have heard that “fitting in” is a social survival tactic, which is not wrong by itself. But when the acceptance only happens when there is a curated version, the chant from the crowd sounds like a farewell to your identity. “The reward
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Are We Living in a Just World?
When you experience something unfortunate and eventually reach out to talk about it, you’ll notice a pattern in how people respond. They’ll ask questions that sound like curiosity but feel like interrogation. “Have you tried?” “You should’ve done/I would do xyz!” “What did you do that might have contributed to the situation?” These questions may
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