Category: Self & Others
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The Truth about Judgement
We all have judged and been judged. Yet the common assumption is that when someone judges you, they’ve thought carefully about who you are. That the criticism reflects an honest assessment, or at least, a genuine attempt at understanding. But sadly, it rarely does. (Related: Honesty Doesn’t Make Your Judgement a Fact) The Psychology of…
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Making Small Mistakes May Make People Like You More
Have you watched your secret-admiring person spill their coffee and found you just loved them even more? Not because of schadenfreude, of course (hopefully). But they suddenly feel more like a real human than fitting into some ideal. Is It True or Just Illusional? You’re not imagining this; it’s actually a well-documented phenomenon. In 1966,…
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The Popular Myth about Dislikes and Insecurities
There’s a particular kind of deflection that often shows up in conversations: the idea that any criticism or dislike directed at someone is really just projection. You don’t like me because you’re insecure. People who dislike you are just jealous. It’s a quick diagnosis and accusation—how convenient. But does it actually make sense? Do They…
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An Easy Way to Make Someone Like You: Ask Them to Do You a Favor
Most of us were taught that the way to make someone like you is to do a favor for them. So we offer help with kindness and friendliness. It seems to be more intuitive. But there’s a more effective move: asking them to do you a small favor. Not the other way around. Not a…
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How Are Self-Esteem and Ego Related in One Person?
“That person’s ego is huge.” We’ve all heard or said something like this at some point. We often use “ego” and “self-esteem” interchangeably or as labels (if someone does X, then they must be Y). While this is not entirely wrong, especially when we need a mental shortcut, understanding how self-esteem and ego are related…
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