Tag: The Rebuilt Series
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Those Important Life Lessons Trauma Teaches Us
As survivors, we move through stages of recovery and eventually arrive at a place where we can become our own harshest enemy. Unfair as it is, there also seems to be a persistent cultural instinct to treat trauma as a flaw, a deficit to be corrected, a shameful chapter to close. Or, the experience is…
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Why Sometimes Understanding Is More Helpful Than Actions
This is for someone who truly cares about survivors: When someone is in pain, fear, or extreme emotional stress, it’s valid that you want to offer concrete help. But the instinct to edit the uncomfortable reality around you when seeing someone suffer is not always helpful. Offer a solution, reframe the situation, point toward what’s…
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Why Focus on the “Why” Doesn’t Really Help Healing?
This is from a survivor for fellow survivors. It is not wrong to intellectualize trauma, but the real cost is our endless rumination. Instinctively, when something catastrophic happens, our immediate instinct is to ask why. We dissect the past, looking for a logical explanation that can make the pain make sense. However, fixation on the “why”…
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Create a Safe Reality: A Better Way to Reduce Rumination
I’ve been dealing with rumination, and I’ve realized it actually exists for a reason. Every time my mind replays the same scene over and over, I feel a twisted sense of safety, as if I’ll be safe as long as I keep replaying it. But when I stop, the anxiety surges. If this pattern resonates…
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Empathy Is Never the Cause of Emotional Abuse
Recently, I have been lurking online, and I can’t believe that I need to address this. There’s a common misconception that abusers only target people with empathy, leading some to frame empathy as the reason emotional abuse happens to certain people. First, stop shaming the victims! Second, to survivors: you are beautifully empathetic souls. Don’t…
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