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  • A Simple (But Useful) Way to Reframe Self-Talk
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    A Simple (But Useful) Way to Reframe Self-Talk

    After a hard day, many of us reach for the same shorthand: I’m a mess, or I’m so wrong about this. It seems to be just how we talk to ourselves. But those automatic phrases carry more psychological weight than we realize. That’s why cognitive-based therapeutic approaches focus on reframing self-talk: we can be our…

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  • Not Every Argument Deserves One
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    Not Every Argument Deserves One

    There is a very specific type of frustration in an argument. You don’t know how to respond, not because you don’t know what went wrong, but because you know exactly what and how many things went wrong. Then, the inner swirl, conflicts, and surreal feeling of being… Am I really there? Where am I? To…

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  • Empathy Is Never the Cause of Emotional Abuse
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    Empathy Is Never the Cause of Emotional Abuse

    Recently, I have been lurking online, and I can’t believe that I need to address this. There’s a common misconception that abusers only target people with empathy, leading some to frame empathy as the reason emotional abuse happens to certain people. First, stop shaming the victims! Second, to survivors: you are beautifully empathetic souls. Don’t…

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  • Choosing Yourself: No One Deserves Your Sacrifice of Authentic Self
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    Choosing Yourself: No One Deserves Your Sacrifice of Authentic Self

    For starters, this is for those who were taught to suppress themselves. People-pleasing is not the same as acceptance. We try to stay in a dysfunctional relationship, usually because those conflicts remind us too much of the chaos, neglect, or punishment we grew up with. So we now have learned to avoid them by abandoning…

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  • 3 Most Common Logical Fallacies Found in Everyday Conversation
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    3 Most Common Logical Fallacies Found in Everyday Conversation

    Logic might sound like something reserved for philosophy classrooms, but it is actually the “glue” that holds our everyday conversations together. While we enjoy a graceful debate leading to a meaningful outcome, arguing with someone operating on logical fallacies (the errors in reasoning) and winning by confusing us is the most frustrating moment. Knowing these…

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