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Leaving Small People Where They Are Is the Best Act
Have you ever dealt with someone who’s so small-minded and limited that you don’t even believe what they did was real? You don’t argue because you have identified the problems and decided that they are unable to communicate. But as a human, you still have your own needs in social contexts. Would you rather entangle…
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What if Your Anxiety Actually Starts in the Gut?
The breakthrough came quietly in psychotherapist Julie Chen’s practice, buried in what seemed like routine patient complaints. For months, she’d noticed a pattern: patients struggling with treatment-resistant depression often mentioned digestive issues. Bloating after meals, chronic stomach pain, irregular bowel movements… Those details that might have been dismissed as stress-related side effects just a decade…
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Is Silence Really a Strategic Move in Emotional Abuse?
The meaning and interpretations of silence can vary depending on the developmental phase. If you grew up in an unpredictable and chaotic household with emotionally unstable caregivers, you might register silence as a survival mechanism. Then, during the transition to early adulthood, people began to blame victims, blindly worshipping surface-level power, and associating silence with…
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What We Have Forgotten: Hidden Heroes of Innovations
Many people grew up associating Edison with the lightbulb and the Wright brothers with the airplane. Yet there are brilliant minds of hidden heroes whose contributions were overlooked, misattributed, or simply forgotten. Even though history might not always recognize the truth at the moment, it will not be forgotten. Beneath the surface of celebrated achievements…
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Don’t Focus on the Manipulations; See Them as They Are
Many people don’t understand how trauma survivors feel about the manipulation. They thought we were resentful because we were played, sad, ashamed, or disappointed, but there is something else very important: justice. It lies in truth, and the truth surfaces when we stop focusing on their manipulations, but see them as they are. Indeed, abuse…
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Never Argue with Someone Unable to Communicate
There’s a saying that circulates among therapists and survivors alike: psychiatric hospitals are full of victims, because the real patients are out in the world refusing treatment. It sounds like dark humor. It is not. Narcissistic abuse, among many other forms of abuse more broadly, is essentially rooted in a mental disorder. It is difficult…
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Why Do Some Women Prefer to Date Younger Men Now?
Have you noticed the “cougars” trend? Or perhaps you naturally prefer to date younger? Women in their mid-30s and beyond are increasingly seeking significantly younger partners. Interestingly, many involved in older women–younger man relationships report higher satisfaction and deeper commitment than those in the reverse situation. But why do we prefer to date younger men…
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Nothing Was Wrong with You in the First Place
If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, your adult life is probably about fixing the problems that were not created by you. At least in early adulthood. For many years, one of my core beliefs was “I was wrong.” And it felt so natural and correct that I didn’t even challenge it. No, it’s…
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The Unexpected Revival of Vinyl: Does Analog Come Back?
“Why don’t you just get a Spotify?” When digital streaming services launched and quickly dominated mainstream listening, vinyl and other physical formats were often seen as relics of the past: niche, collectible, and almost vintage. But the picture changed in the 2010s. Despite the stereotypical beliefs and the normalization of music streamed effortlessly through earbuds…
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Are You Sometimes Confused by Social Comparison?
Over the years, I’ve encountered countless people who secretly (or not so secretly) compete with others for no apparent reason. It doesn’t happen in a professional, high-stakes environment, but rather among acquaintances, fake friends in casual settings, or even random people on the street. Personally, I’ve gone through several phases in response: speechlessness; a wave…
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