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Don’t Worry! You Are Just Dealing with A Hyper-Concrete Thinker
Have you ever tried to explain a fresh perspective or a nuanced idea to someone, only to watch their brain go short-circuited? Or tried to communicate a concept in two different ways, only to realize they’re hearing two completely different things? Or maybe you’ve offered a creative angle or a genuinely helpful solution, and they…
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Do It In a Way That People Will Follow
This is a message about leadership for lone wolves (like me): no matter how much you enjoy being on your own, if you’re ambitious enough, you’ll eventually need to learn to work with people. While that requires a whole different skill set, mindset, and, let’s be honest, a specific kind of headache, the deeper issue…
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Materialistic Pursuit is Never Really about the Money
Almost no one chasing money, power, or status is really chasing money, power, or status. What drives extreme material pursuit is usually something much older. Something that is deeply rooted in our way of making sense of the world. Safety that was never consistent. Survival with constant vigilance. Self-worth was conditional, and metrics were unclear.…
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The Truth that You Become What You Repeatedly Do
Historian Will Durant, distilling Aristotle’s argument in The Story of Philosophy, summarizes that virtue is not a trait you’re born with, but a pattern you build through repeated action. Also, this illustrates the power of habit-forming. Sounds like a motivational quote on Pinterest, but it is scientifically sound. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then,…
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Irony of Humanaity: The Worst and the Best of People
There’s something corrosive about encountering people who cause real harm. It may not be the ordinary friction of difficult personalities, but the kind of behavior that makes you reconsider your baseline assumptions about others. It doesn’t just hurt, but restructures. The trust in humanity that once felt natural starts to feel like a liability. This…
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Addiction and the Problem No One Talks About
I am aware that this is a heavy topic. As a trauma survivor from a dysfunctional family of origin, I witnessed my father’s alcoholism and went through painful withdrawal from addiction myself. I have now been sober and clean for five years, but I still remember all the judgment, shame, and harsh criticism. Looking back,…
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The Truth about Judgement
We all have judged and been judged. Yet the common assumption is that when someone judges you, they’ve thought carefully about who you are. That the criticism reflects an honest assessment, or at least, a genuine attempt at understanding. But sadly, it rarely does. (Related: Honesty Doesn’t Make Your Judgement a Fact) The Psychology of…
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Why Do We Prefer Older Times When They Were Not Actually Better?
The vacation photos look perfect, and it may be the most heart-swelling memory with loved ones. Or you totally enjoyed the alone time, figured things out. Next time we go on a trip, and the car gets pulled over. “That time was so much better.” We sigh. But was it true? There was a delayed…
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Boredom Actually Exists for a Reason
There is a specific discomfort that comes with having nothing to do. Not tiredness or sadness, but something closer to restlessness. Instinctively, we reach for the phone, scroll on social media, scan the room to spot untidiness, put something on in the background, or find a task. If someone asked about it, we would say,…
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Those Important Life Lessons Trauma Teaches Us
As survivors, we move through stages of recovery and eventually arrive at a place where we can become our own harshest enemy. Unfair as it is, there also seems to be a persistent cultural instinct to treat trauma as a flaw, a deficit to be corrected, a shameful chapter to close. Or, the experience is…
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