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  • Why Are We Stuck in the Past More When Stressed?
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    Why Are We Stuck in the Past More When Stressed?

    Have you noticed that when we are stressed by current situations, we tend to judge ourselves harshly and our minds pull us back into old, painful loops? Recently, I have experienced exactly that. Beyond the wide range of negative feelings from the old wound, I wonder why my mind fixates on ancient archives every time…

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  • Will You Leave a Toxic Circle or Stay to Fight?
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    Will You Leave a Toxic Circle or Stay to Fight?

    There was a point in my career when I realized a particular environment was no longer working for me. The office politics were relentless, the culture felt incompatible with my values, and, most importantly, that drama wasn’t even necessary to advance my career, even in the same field. Yet my energy was completely depleted. I…

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  • The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse
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    The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse

    Over the years, I have heard many ridiculous excuses—some from abusers, others from their recruits, and still others from biased witnesses. To protect myself (and my readers) from these absurdities, I am sharing this very clear message for fellow survivors: as adults, there is no justification for deliberately hurting others for personal gain. Abuse, manipulation,…

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  • Don’t Worry! You Are Just Dealing with A Hyper-Concrete Thinker
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    Don’t Worry! You Are Just Dealing with A Hyper-Concrete Thinker

    Have you ever tried to explain a fresh perspective or a nuanced idea to someone, only to watch their brain go short-circuited? Or tried to communicate a concept in two different ways, only to realize they’re hearing two completely different things? Or maybe you’ve offered a creative angle or a genuinely helpful solution, and they…

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  • Do It In a Way That People Will Follow
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    Do It In a Way That People Will Follow

    This is a message about leadership for lone wolves (like me): no matter how much you enjoy being on your own, if you’re ambitious enough, you’ll eventually need to learn to work with people. While that requires a whole different skill set, mindset, and, let’s be honest, a specific kind of headache, the deeper issue…

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