Tag: Reflection
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Choosing Yourself: No One Deserves Your Sacrifice of Authentic Self
For starters, this is for those who were taught to suppress themselves. People-pleasing is not the same as acceptance. We try to stay in a dysfunctional relationship, usually because those conflicts remind us too much of the chaos, neglect, or punishment we grew up with. So we now have learned to avoid them by abandoning…
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Reading Is One of the Best You can Do for Yourself
Recently, I have been witnessing the upward trend of “digital detoxing”. The urge to touch grass seems urgent. As reading is often purposeful, for its ability to inform or for leisure, its most profound gift is actually the cultivation of a resilient inner architecture. The Importance of an Independent Mind Reading, fiction or nonfiction, is…
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The Problem with “Hurt People Hurt”
No. Not all hurt people hurt others to cope. This generalized, oversimplified quick wisdom may be good for TikTok compassion, but it may potentially not only justify abusers’ behaviors but also invalidate victims. Trauma and issues of abusers don’t excuse them from accountability. And this thought occurred to me, somehow, after popular content online remains…
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Honesty Doesn’t Make Your Judgement a Fact
People love heroism. Playing the sage, savior, advisor, or authority figure has an irresistible pull for those in a certain psychological state. As a result, honesty often comes with a surge of self-fueled enthusiasm. But does that make their opinion worth listening to? Many people assume that if they are being honest, their opinions automatically…
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The Paradox of Revenge: Mission Impossible for Abuse Survivors
Hear me out: I get it. As survivors, even just the mental picture of slapping abusers (and their crew) in the face or watching their hideous true colors revealed in a public exposée can give us an instant dopamine rush. But in reality, many brave and beautiful reborn souls face a paradox of revenge that feels…
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