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Tag: Concept-led

  • Why Are We Stuck in the Past More When Stressed?
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    Why Are We Stuck in the Past More When Stressed?

    Have you noticed that when we are stressed by current situations, we tend to judge ourselves harshly and our minds pull us back into old, painful loops? Recently, I have experienced exactly that. Beyond the wide range of negative feelings from the old wound, I wonder why my mind fixates on ancient archives every time…

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  • The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse
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    The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse

    Over the years, I have heard many ridiculous excuses—some from abusers, others from their recruits, and still others from biased witnesses. To protect myself (and my readers) from these absurdities, I am sharing this very clear message for fellow survivors: as adults, there is no justification for deliberately hurting others for personal gain. Abuse, manipulation,…

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  • Don’t Worry! You Are Just Dealing with A Hyper-Concrete Thinker
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    Don’t Worry! You Are Just Dealing with A Hyper-Concrete Thinker

    Have you ever tried to explain a fresh perspective or a nuanced idea to someone, only to watch their brain go short-circuited? Or tried to communicate a concept in two different ways, only to realize they’re hearing two completely different things? Or maybe you’ve offered a creative angle or a genuinely helpful solution, and they…

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  • The Scapegoat Theory: Blame Someone for Maintaining Social Order
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    The Scapegoat Theory: Blame Someone for Maintaining Social Order

    This can happen in any group, especially when you’re in a toxic social environment. In that dynamic, you may have been unfortunately and unfairly labeled as the “uncontrollable” one. You might have faced exclusion, cruelty, confusion, and a kind of collective gaslighting that has nothing to do with your actual worth. In psychology, group behavior…

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  • Riding the Emotional Wave: How to Master the 90-Second Rule?
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    Riding the Emotional Wave: How to Master the 90-Second Rule?

    It happens in a flash. An aggressive driver cuts you off, a colleague sends a passive-aggressive email, or a family member presses your exact emotional button. Instantly, your face flushes, your heart races, your stomach churns, and a wave of pure anger or panic washes over you. You have just experienced an “amygdala hijack”. That…

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