Tag: Concept-led
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The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse
Over the years, I have heard many ridiculous excuses—some from abusers, others from their recruits, and still others from biased witnesses. To protect myself (and my readers) from these absurdities, I am sharing this very clear message for fellow survivors: as adults, there is no justification for deliberately hurting others for personal gain. Abuse, manipulation,…
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Don’t Worry! You Are Just Dealing with A Hyper-Concrete Thinker
Have you ever tried to explain a fresh perspective or a nuanced idea to someone, only to watch their brain go short-circuited? Or tried to communicate a concept in two different ways, only to realize they’re hearing two completely different things? Or maybe you’ve offered a creative angle or a genuinely helpful solution, and they…
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The Scapegoat Theory: Blame Someone for Maintaining Social Order
This can happen in any group, especially when you’re in a toxic social environment. In that dynamic, you may have been unfortunately and unfairly labeled as the “uncontrollable” one. You might have faced exclusion, cruelty, confusion, and a kind of collective gaslighting that has nothing to do with your actual worth. In psychology, group behavior…
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Riding the Emotional Wave: How to Master the 90-Second Rule?
It happens in a flash. An aggressive driver cuts you off, a colleague sends a passive-aggressive email, or a family member presses your exact emotional button. Instantly, your face flushes, your heart races, your stomach churns, and a wave of pure anger or panic washes over you. You have just experienced an “amygdala hijack”. That…
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How Sharing Big Goals Can Kill Your Motivation
There is an intoxicating rush that comes with announcing a massive new life goal. Whether you tell your best friend you’re writing a novel, launching a business, or training for a marathon, their immediate reaction is almost always enthusiastic applause. “That’s amazing! You’re going to do great!” they say. You walk away feeling inspired and…
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