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Category: Mental Health

  • Why Are We Stuck in the Past More When Stressed?
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    Why Are We Stuck in the Past More When Stressed?

    Have you noticed that when we are stressed by current situations, we tend to judge ourselves harshly and our minds pull us back into old, painful loops? Recently, I have experienced exactly that. Beyond the wide range of negative feelings from the old wound, I wonder why my mind fixates on ancient archives every time…

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  • The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse
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    The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse

    Over the years, I have heard many ridiculous excuses—some from abusers, others from their recruits, and still others from biased witnesses. To protect myself (and my readers) from these absurdities, I am sharing this very clear message for fellow survivors: as adults, there is no justification for deliberately hurting others for personal gain. Abuse, manipulation,…

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  • Riding the Emotional Wave: How to Master the 90-Second Rule?
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    Riding the Emotional Wave: How to Master the 90-Second Rule?

    It happens in a flash. An aggressive driver cuts you off, a colleague sends a passive-aggressive email, or a family member presses your exact emotional button. Instantly, your face flushes, your heart races, your stomach churns, and a wave of pure anger or panic washes over you. You have just experienced an “amygdala hijack”. That…

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  • Materialistic Pursuit is Never Really about the Money
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    Materialistic Pursuit is Never Really about the Money

    Almost no one chasing money, power, or status is really chasing money, power, or status. What drives extreme material pursuit is usually something much older. Something that is deeply rooted in our way of making sense of the world. Safety that was never consistent. Survival with constant vigilance. Self-worth was conditional, and metrics were unclear.…

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  • Addiction and the Problem No One Talks About
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    Addiction and the Problem No One Talks About

    I am aware that this is a heavy topic. As a trauma survivor from a dysfunctional family of origin, I witnessed my father’s alcoholism and went through painful withdrawal from addiction myself. I have now been sober and clean for five years, but I still remember all the judgment, shame, and harsh criticism. Looking back,…

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