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  • Have You Ever Done Silly Things Just to Avoid People?
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    Have You Ever Done Silly Things Just to Avoid People?

    So, you would pretend to check the mailbox for longer than necessary just to avoid taking the elevator with a neighbor. And occasionally, you would walk three more blocks just because you saw an acquaintance coming from afar? Or you would “accidentally” have to get off the train at a random stop only to finish…

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  • Why Some People Love to Dismiss Spirituality’s Therapeutic Role
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    Why Some People Love to Dismiss Spirituality’s Therapeutic Role

    Over the years, I have encountered people who rushed to jump into a conversation to dismiss spirituality’s role when we talked about therapeutic approaches. Some of them are in the field, while others aren’t. Typically, one friend, overwhelmed by existential panic or emotional burnout, finds solace and genuine grounding in a tarot reading, crystals, aura…

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  • Why Do Some People Love to Leave Messages on Read?
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    Why Do Some People Love to Leave Messages on Read?

    Yes, I am one of the “some people”. In my defense, it depends on how urgent the message is. If your house is not on fire, your credit card is not declined at the pharmacy for a prescription (that you have to take that day), or you are not in the ER, please do not…

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  • Will You Leave a Toxic Circle or Stay to Fight?
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    Will You Leave a Toxic Circle or Stay to Fight?

    There was a point in my career when I realized a particular environment was no longer working for me. The office politics were relentless, the culture felt incompatible with my values, and, most importantly, that drama wasn’t even necessary to advance my career, even in the same field. Yet my energy was completely depleted. I…

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  • The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse
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    The Truth of Abuse: Unconscious Mechanisms Are Not an Excuse

    Over the years, I have heard many ridiculous excuses—some from abusers, others from their recruits, and still others from biased witnesses. To protect myself (and my readers) from these absurdities, I am sharing this very clear message for fellow survivors: as adults, there is no justification for deliberately hurting others for personal gain. Abuse, manipulation,…

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