I recently had a commenter troll me, stating there were “an awful lot of suppositions for a fact page” with at least three grammatical errors. To validate his (judging by the commentator’s profile) feelings, I do use standardized wording such as “research suggests” or “may help” rather than making absolute claims like “if someone walks fast, they are confident.” If that sounds like incompetence, the real issue is not about online culture, but a deeper mismatch. At the same time, when I shared a well-established study on the Illusion of Transparency (the idea that people don’t notice your internal emotions as much as you think), people rushed in to use their personal anecdotes to disprove the general finding.
But above all, they cared enough to leave a comment. And that alone is something worth unpacking.
The Reality of Reporting
I’ve realized that in the world of psychology and humanity, you can’t actually own a style on social media. If you provide nuance and room for interpretation, it’s a “supposition.” If you provide a hard fact, it’s “not true for me.” I used to analyze this intellectually, wondering if they were triggered or projecting. Now, I just realized that some people just need/want to be right, rather than think.
It is pretty much the same in real life, though. Frustrating, but true. So, stack lavender tea, stress gummies, and my matcha latte. Log off, go cycling, and watch Netflix with my cat.
The Strategy Lover
But the brand has kept running, and I love editing more than art (I love the strategy and logic part more, tbh). I stopped engaging with the “Thanks for sharing your thoughts, BUT…” formula that I have learned in business communication 101. I’m writing for the curious, the skeptics, and the lifelong learners. If the data doesn’t fit your day-to-day? That’s okay. It’ll be in the library when you’re ready for a different perspective and graceful debate. So, a quick reminder to myself: This site is a research archive, not a diagnostic clinic. I don’t do “Pop Psych,” I don’t write “diagnosis”, I don’t put on an expertise hat and go “7 ways to make a narcissist scared”.
My goal is not to tell you who you are, who they are, how to beat them, and claim the intellectual trophy. I believe everyone needs freedom and independence to filter the noise to the authentic version of themselves. But to build that unique filter, we need to learn, grow, and understand what sciences and the humanities say about how the mind works. Not just settle into a lived experience. I personally don’t like anyone to tell me what to do, especially what to think. So, you are an expert on your own life, and what I share is the information plus my own experience.
My background is as an editor, artist, and writer, and now returned to school for a double master’s in psychology and cultural studies. So, yes, I know what I am talking about. But no, I am not a data nerd or high-brow thinker. I just don’t like thinking without nuances or diagnosing without systems.
P.S. Generally, people walking fast is linked to confidence, but it might be because of anxiety, stress, or underlying fear. Or, because of situational factors, such as using the bathroom, hunger, avoiding someone, being late, weather–if the statement is not entirely conceptual. Real confidence and strength are not based on how you want to be perceived.
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