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Tag: Reflection

  • Leaving Small People Where They Are Is the Best Act
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    Leaving Small People Where They Are Is the Best Act

    Have you ever dealt with someone who’s so small-minded and limited that you don’t even believe what they did was real? You don’t argue because you have identified the problems and decided that they are unable to communicate. But as a human, you still have your own needs in social contexts. Would you rather entangle

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  • Is Silence Really a Strategic Move in Emotional Abuse?
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    Is Silence Really a Strategic Move in Emotional Abuse?

    The meaning and interpretations of silence can vary depending on the developmental phase. If you grew up in an unpredictable and chaotic household with emotionally unstable caregivers, you might register silence as a survival mechanism. Then, during the transition to early adulthood, people began to blame victims, blindly worshipping surface-level power, and associating silence with

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  • Don’t Focus on the Manipulations; See Them as They Are
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    Don’t Focus on the Manipulations; See Them as They Are

    Many people don’t understand how trauma survivors feel about the manipulation. They thought we were resentful because we were played, sad, ashamed, or disappointed, but there is something else very important: justice. It lies in truth, and the truth surfaces when we stop focusing on their manipulations, but see them as they are. Indeed, abuse

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  • Never Argue with Someone Unable to Communicate
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    Never Argue with Someone Unable to Communicate

    There’s a saying that circulates among therapists and survivors alike: psychiatric hospitals are full of victims, because the real patients are out in the world refusing treatment. It sounds like dark humor. It is not. Narcissistic abuse, among many other forms of abuse more broadly, is essentially rooted in a mental disorder. It is difficult

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  • Nothing Was Wrong with You in the First Place
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    Nothing Was Wrong with You in the First Place

    If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, your adult life is probably about fixing the problems that were not created by you. At least in early adulthood. For many years, one of my core beliefs was “I was wrong.” And it felt so natural and correct that I didn’t even challenge it. No, it’s

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